Why Therapy Should Be in Your Personal Toolkit with Jordan A. Madison

If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that mental health in the black community is essential.

While minority communities were disproportionately impacted by COVID-19, the Black community found themselves fighting two wars – the Coronavirus pandemic and systemic racism.

As we head into 2021, it’s important that black individuals find ways to prioritize mental health. Starting therapy is a great way to start.

But…therapy is for rich white people…right? Wrong.

It’s no secret that the black community is slow to seek therapy due to:

  • Stigmas surrounding therapy
  • Racial barriers/lack of access
  • An overall mistrust of the healthcare system

Jordan A. Madison is a Licensed Clinical Marriage & Family Therapist who’s here to shed some light on the subject.

Jordan is the Founder of Therapy is my JAM, a community focused on mental wellness, healthy relationships, and destigmatizing therapy in the black community.

This month, we caught up with Jordan to discuss all things therapy and things you should know if you’re considering starting your therapy journey.

1. Where did your interest in therapy begin?

J: It started with an episode of Grey’s Anatomy! I remember there was an episode where Meredith Grey was in therapy, and her therapist helped her have an “Ah-ha” moment.

I remember thinking, “Oh! I want to do that. I want to be able to help people understand more about themselves and help them have these ‘Ah-ha’ moments.”

2. How’s it going….where are you on your therapy journey right now?

J: I am a fully Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist in Maryland. I’m working for a private practice here in the area and am seeing clients, which is exciting.

Lately, I’ve been thinking of ways to expand my brand. Whether it’s creating journal prompts, a guided journal, or just speaking on more platforms.

3. Therapy is my Jam is dedicated to destigmatizing therapy in the black community. Why is that important?

J: There’s been such a mistrust of the healthcare system in general. Between Henrietta Lacks and the Tuskegee Experiment, there have been many instances where we’ve been wronged by the medical system. Therapy is sometimes seen as a part of that system.

There’s also this misconception that if you go to therapy, something is wrong with you or you’re crazy, which is not true. Last but not least, the black community is really big on faith and praying on it. When you go to therapy, it can be seen as you’re not trusting God, and you’re telling your business to strangers.

That’s why we need to reduce the stigma. We’re in a different time where we need to talk about things. We need to find a good therapist that helps you process childhood trauma or see how that trauma plays out in your current relationships.

4. I always recommend making therapy your first investment once you enter “the real world.” Could you speak to why therapy is important even for young adults?

J: It’s such a transitional period in your life. You feel like a teenager in this body that’s expected to be more responsible. Your hormones are going crazy, and your emotions are all over the place. There’s so much going on that it’s helpful to have someone to talk through those things with.

It’s also important for you to see what messages you received in your childhood and how they contribute to how you view things now. What are things from your past that you want to keep, and what are the things you want to shed?

5. How does one find a therapist?

J: There’s plenty of directories for everyone, but specifically the black community. My go-to’s are:

  • Therapyforblackgirls.com they have a directory based on location and insurance.
  • Openpathcollective.org, which is for people who don’t have insurance or cannot afford high out of pocket costs. They have therapists offer their services on a sliding scale.
  • Boris Henson Foundation, which was created by Taraji P. Henson around therapy and mental health, has a mental health provider and programs resource guide.
  • Google, you can also just search “therapist near me” and you would be surprised what you may find.

Once you find a therapist you’re interested in, read their bio and look to see if their specialties align with what you’re looking for.

6. What if you feel your therapist isn’t a good fit?

J: Even if you find a therapist, you’re not obligated to stay. I’m not saying to completely abandon your therapist and not let them know. But you can let them know this is not a good fit for you or you feel like you’ve reached your goals with them.

You can also ask them specific questions. I had a client ask me how do I measure progress? How do I expect each session to go? Did I have experience with the LGBTQIA community. These were all great questions.

Some of the things to think about when attending therapy: Does this person understand what it’s like to be you? Maybe they don’t look like you, is that a deal-breaker for you?

Does it feel like they’re just interviewing you and making you feel uncomfortable? If you have a lot of trauma to unpack, are they comfortable working with trauma?

You want them to have a strong understanding of certain things because you want a therapist where you don’t have to explain everything. It feels really good when you have a therapist that just gets it.

7. What are some common misconceptions or myths about therapy that should be debunked?

  • “Therapy is expensive”. Most insurances cover individual therapy. Couples therapy is a little trickier, and that can be expensive because most insurances don’t cover it.
  • “Something has to be wrong to go to therapy,” which I personally know is not the case. When I went to therapy, I started going because I’m a therapist and I wanted to make sure I was practicing what I preach. How can I tell people about therapy when I’m not going myself?
  • “If you don’t have a specific problem, then you won’t have anything to talk about.” This isn’t true. You’d be surprised, I’ve had clients who’ve started by opening up a little bit, and then a whole bunch of stuff comes up. It’s amazing when you realize how much you have been holding in.

8. What other mental health resources do you recommend as an alternative for those who can’t afford therapy?

J: There are so many things that can be therapeutic even though they’re not therapy. You have to find what your self-care looks like.

  • Journaling and writing things out can be cathartic. Whether it’s free writing or using prompts.
  • Meditating, slowing your breath, and staying present in the moment can be helpful.
  • Therapy-related podcasts are also an option. While podcasts don’t equal therapy, you can listen to therapists’ opinions on topics and situations.

There’s also a really helpful article on Therapy for Black Girls that talks about this.

Key Takeaways:

Therapy is for everyone at any stage of life. You don’t have to have a mental illness seek therapy.

Where you can go to find a therapist:

  1. Therapyforblackgirls.com
  2. Openpathcollective.org
  3. Boris Henson Foundation

When you find your therapist, don’t be afraid to ask them questions to determine if they will be a good fit. Additionally, if your therapist doesn’t feel like a good match, you don’t have to stay.

Want to keep up with Jordan?

Website: Therapy is my JAM.com

IG: Therapy is my JAM

Twitter: Therapy is my JAM

Facebook: Therapy is my JAM

LinkedIn: Jordan Madison

This article has been edited for length and clarity.

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